There are a lot of dangerous places in the world. Scary places that we send our men and women in the military to, risky places we may visit to help with humanitarian aid and even simply underdeveloped places that we may venture to for a sense of adventure. You can watch Bear Grylls travel to dangerous places. You can talk to loved ones about their military service. While those are undeniably physically dangerous destinations, I am suggesting what I think is the most dangerous place in the world for most of the rest of us. Both for our world culture and our personal lives.
The most dangerous place in the world is the concept of tomorrow.
Because tomorrow does two very dangerous things:
- It lulls us into complacency by justifying our laziness and inaction today saying, “I’m going to take care of it “tomorrow” and
- It allows us to put off experiencing joy by rationalizing our unhappiness today in the hope it will arrive tomorrow.
Happiness and action are here. Right now.
Tomorrow is like a revolving door that you can spin around in forever unless you choose to walk out today.
The two most common forms are what I like to call the Scarlett O’Hara syndrome and the Willful Victim Complex. Let me explain.
Scarlett O’Hara Syndrome
In the famous movie Gone With The Wind, Scarlett is at her wits end trying to put her family’s plantation home back together after the crumble of the south in the Civil War. When faced with too many overwhelming problems, Scarlett simply replies, “I’m not going to think about that today, I’ll worry about that tomorrow.”
In Scarlett’s case, her postponement of problems is justified — she’s simply in survival mode and needs to handle the problems of right now immediately. However, for most people with this philosophy, they aren’t trying to save their metaphoric Tara, they’re procrastinating. Saying you’ll help with that cause later, knowing you probably will not ever mobilize. Telling others you’ll start working out and eating right tomorrow because hey, today you already had a cookie so the day’s blown – may as well binge. The list goes on and on but when you decide to postpone action you could take right now to feel better, live better, fulfill your purpose better and serve others, you’re hanging out in the most dangerous tomorrow place there is.
Justifying inaction is a lie you tell yourself that drains you of your personal power. You know it’s not true. Don’t rationalize away your inaction. Don’t write off the whole day as a loss because you didn’t do the whole thing… DO SOMETHING. Start now.
“Do you not see that all your misery comes from the strange belief that you are powerless?” – A Course In Miracles
You are not powerless. You are powerful. Don’t lie to yourself and cheat yourself out of a fun, joyful experience and outlook right now. Commit to making tomorrow the actions of today. Affirm your power with your actions.
Willful Victim Complex
The willful victim complex is one I see too often in too many people. I think this stems from the Scarlett O’Hara syndrome for those who told themselves one too many times that they would, “worry about that tomorrow.” Not only did the willful victim not raise the tax money to save Tara, when they didn’t, they blamed everyone else.
You are not a victim.
What’s worse, if you believe you are, you’re cheating yourself out of a life.
“Be not content with future happiness. It has no meaning and is not your just reward. For you have cause for freedom now.” – A Course In Miracles
When I have that house, then I’ll be happy but I can’t get the house right now because I don’t have the money. When I have a boyfriend who loves me, not another jerk, then I’ll be happy but I can’t find the right guy and I always pick bad ones. When I lose 20 pounds, then I’ll really be happy because I’ll be beautiful, but I can’t loose the weight now because I’m so busy.
How empowering is any of that crap?
“You can’t buy happiness with the currency of unhappiness.” – James Altucher
You can be happy right now at the weight your at AND choose to eat healthier and move more. It’s that simple.
You can be happy right now being single AND work on your character to attract and enjoy a healthier relationship when the next opportunity presents itself.
You can be happy right now in your tiny, crappy little apartment AND find ways to make more money, save more money or discover another opportunity that will allow you to save to get your dream house.
Life is not an either-or proposition. There should be a hell of a lot of ANDs in your vocabulary and no cant’s.
I dislike can’t tremendously. It’s a disabling, terrible word. Empower yourself and find ways YOU CAN.
Don’t fall pray to words of weakness. Don’t believe you are anything less than a brilliant creature made to shine, made to work hard and made to serve big time. Believe in you and we’ll all believe in you, too.
I’ll leave you with this final declaration of your magnificence and power to think about and consider from A Course In Miracles.
“There is only one thing you must do for vision, happiness and the release from all sin, for all to be given to you. Say only this, but mean it with no reservations for here the power of your salvation lies:
I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to ‘happen to me’ I ask for an receive, just as I have asked.
Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge that you have been mistaken and with that, all mistakes disappear.”
Jill Brown is an Author, Blogger, and Professional Writer. She founded TheDuchessGuide.com and is the author of the newly released book: Royally Awesome: How To Live, Think And Be Epic Daily. Jill’s writing has been featured in ALASKA Magazine, AOPA Flight Training Magazine and she is a frequent contributor to SingleMindedWomen.com.
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