Loving the Ladies
Submitted by admin on August 20, 2010 - 9:20 am
Bonjour!
Every once in a while I read or hear something so beautiful that I get all teary eyed and emotional. This seems to be happening a lot lately as I’m five weeks into the Duchess Summer Loving course and I’m hearing some really beautiful things from the women in class. Tales of first dates that have turned into third, then fourth, then more. Tales of long term relationships turned into the sweetest and most loving engagement stories. Tales of happily married women now moving on to the next part of their journey with their partners, the starting of their own families.
And so even as I write this I get all sobby and emotional because I feel so grateful to be standing where I am today. Yes I wanted to be standing here with a partner by now. But now that I’m here, while the partner is still something I will openly welcome when he comes, he seems less important to making a complete and blissful life at the moment. Not because he doesn’t matter, but because I know that our meeting and coming together will happen effortlessly when it’s started and until then, look at all the love.
It’s easy when we get our hearts broken to say, “fuck love. I’m never getting hurt again.” But while some people may have thought my foolish to open up to it so totally again with someone, I am actually really grateful I did because I know now what it feels like and how to do it. I have loved someone totally and fully and bigger then I ever thought possible. And perhaps the point of that love was just to learn that I could do it, and lose it and still survive so that when I get another shot at it, I won’t be scared. I’ll actually be able to go even bigger because I know now what I’m capable of and that there is no reason to fear losing it, because “it”, love, is the reason. It’s the point.
I understand that love doesn’t pay the electricity bill. I know it doesn’t purchase the Porsche or solve the mortgage situation. It doesn’t do much of anything really, in that respect. But it does make life fun. It creates the moments that we carry in our hearts for life. It fills up the supply of courage, strength and support that we need in reserves to be bold and live fully. It’s the reason we’re all here. And I think it’s the reason we all long for the perfect partner, even those of us who have been so hurt as some point that we say we don’t care or don’t need it. Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone. I don’t know one single person who doesn’t need to be loved and cherished. It’s the best feeling in the world.
And as I’ve secretly hoped and loudly preached from my Duchess pulpit these past few years, there are good, nay, great men everywhere who want to join in this kind of union just as much as women. And to back me up is this beautiful article from the Huffington Post, written by a bold man explains, all men do dream of falling in love, just like women.
Whether you’re a man or woman, you should read it. There is something to be learned here, even if it’s just honesty.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arjuna-ardagh/goddess-worship_b_660896.html?ref=fb&src=sp
Something about the moon is always magical to me.
When He Isn’t Into You
Submitted by admin on August 19, 2010 - 7:35 am
Bonjour!
Nando is one of the amazing men that I know through Twitter who makes me wish I lived in New York (sorry LA, sometimes I cheat on you in my mind with the BIG Apple, it’s true, I believe Dr. Phil calls it emotional cheating, it’s just, well Manhattan has it going on). He’s not only handsome and funny, he’s got a great ebook “Dating Stuff” you can purchase and check out and he’s today’s link. Why? Well did you not just read all those reasons I just wrote? No, seriously though, Nando is a great writer, has spot-on advice for straight and gay readers and I read the post of his I’m about to share and thought, my last semi-serious relationship (air quotes? Ok, “relationship”) had 4 of 5 of Nando’s “5 Signs He’s Not Into You.” How did that happen? Oh how the mighty have fallen. Can I be blamed? No. Mainly because my parents named me Jill and so it was predetermined that a dude named Jack and/or a falling down were in my future somewhere and also because I didn’t know Nando when this was going on.
Onward and upward.
Now I have Nando, Duchess and a have hiked back up to the top. No more of this tumbling down hills business! For you either, read on!
Nando’s: 5 Signs He’s Not Into You
http://nandoism.com/2010/07/01/5-signs-hes-not-into-you/
Remember what the motto of Duchess is for dating; Clarity, clarity, clarity! If he’s doing any of the above, get some clarity girl and move on to what you deserve. Love is out there in a huge way for us all – you’re no exception. So come and get your love!
Love is everywhere - go get 'em!
Royally Kind Begins!
Submitted by admin on August 5, 2010 - 6:48 am
Bonjour!
For any of you who aren’t familiar with the Duchess “Royally Kind” Blogging event – you’re about to be! A group of about 20 women bloggers have joined me in the first ever (but hopefully not last) blogging event for good deeds and random acts of kindness! The rules are this;
1) This week I challenged the women to commit a random act of kindness for a total stranger when the inspiration set in to do so. I asked them to watch and see all week whatever opportunities they could to do something to help someone out. There were only two rules, it had to be a stranger and it had to be less than $5 (if someone chose to do a monetary act) because I wanted to particularly have us focus on connecting with another human being and offering a service of kindness, as small as that is.
2) They have a specific date (August 5th, today! and August 10th, next Tuesday) to post about their act and share it with the world.
3) At the end of their post I asked them to link to the other women bloggers participating from their group to “pay it forward” and link up the whole group with their blog. That way anyone’s particular readers can visit the other blogs of participants and read about more good deeds happening around the world. And yes, the Royally Kind blogging event is happening around the world.
How you can help?! WHY read all about it and leave comments! Or better yet, commit your own random act of kindness and leave it in the comments section. We’re happy to have more of you! Join us, pay it forward, and be Royally Kind!!
Here are my ladies!!
Group One: Posting Thursday, August 5th, 2010
“Red Said”: http://www.redsaid.net“That Happened to Me”: http://www.thathappenedtome.com“Redefining the Meaning of Wealth”: http://www.redefiningthemeaningofwealth.com“Plush Palate”: http://plushpalate.blogspot.com/
Group Two: Posting Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
“La La Lovely” : http://lalalovelythings.blogspot.com/
“Res”: http://resipsainsead.blogspot.com/
“Remabulous Coaching”: http://www.remabulouscoaching.com/remabulous/Blog/index.cfm“A Life More Fabulous” : http://alifemorefabulous.blogspot.com/
“Single For Good” : http://singleforgood.blogspot.com/“Simply Seductive” : http://simplyseductive.blogspot.com/“Everything Fab” : http://www.everythingfab.com/“Bits of Beauty” : http://www.dailybitsofbeauty.com/
PLEASE SHOW YOUR SUPPORT FOR ROYALLY KIND AND THESE AMAZING WOMEN BY LEAVING COMMENTS, SHARING YOUR OWN TALES OF KINDNESS, AND VISITING THESE AMAZING WOMEN’S INDIVIDUAL SITES. I’M SO SO SO GRATEFUL TO THEM FOR SHARING MY IDEA THAT LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, PEOPLE ARE INSTINCTIVELY GOOD, AND BEAUTY IS ALL AROUND US EVERY DAY!!
Join us!
I think we could all use more acts of patience and kindness directed from us toward our fellow man and vice versa!
Show your support and leave your comments below! Then visit the beautiful Duchesses of Royally Kind, by clicking through to their amazing blogs and sharing your comments!!
La La Love this Lovely Blog!
Submitted by admin on August 1, 2010 - 8:41 pm
Bonjour!
The “Royally Kind” Blogging event kicks off this week and look at this beautiful, sweet intro to the event from amazing blogger Trina of La La Lovely. She’s a great woman with a great blog – see her post and learn more about ‘Royally Kind’ happening this week.
http://lalalovelythings.blogspot.com/2010/07/la-la-love-royally-kind.html
La La Lovely - Indeed!!
Single For Good?
Submitted by admin on July 22, 2010 - 7:17 am
Bonjour!
This week’s column on Single Minded Women is a great interview you’re going to want to check out! I had the opportunity to meet Bianca, the genius – heart and soul – behind Single For Good. Her blog ‘Single for Good’ is based off of the philosophy that every bad date deserves a good deed! If only we were all so generous with our time and resources when the dating world goes wrong!
It’s a great interview with a really wonderful lady – so check it out now HERE.
long may you reign in good deeds and great dates!
Single for Good never seemed so Great!
Cinderella Was A Liar!
Submitted by admin on July 15, 2010 - 6:43 am
Bonjour!
This week’s Duchess Digest column over on Single Minded Women is a great one! I had the opportunity to interview Brenda Della Casa, dating coach and author of ‘Cinderella Was A Liar.’ It was such a joy to talk with her! She’s smart, fun, beautiful and totally inspiring. She shares some insights into life, dating and being a single woman in the modern world.
Be sure to check out today’s column by going here:
http://singlemindedwomen.com/women-relationships/duchess-digest-cinderella-was-a-liar/
long may you reign!
To get your own copy of Cinderella Was A Liar - visit www.cinderellawasaliar.com
