Be Sexy. Be Sassy. Be Slobby? Be Yourself!

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Okay. Now that you’ve signed up you should be able to see that my Number One tip for starting off the five best practices in dating is to BE YOURSELF. Yes. We’re talking 100% authenticity here!

If you watched my video tips and read my first dating tip here on the website, you know I insist that you believe your date when he tells you who he is and what he wants. Well the same is true for you too! You should really authentically be showing yourself to your date. I don’t mean download your entire history over the first coffee together (that is another dating tip in this series for a little later!). Rather be sure that you’re being honest about what you’re into, activities you really enjoy and your general personality is shining through.

How many of you have pretended to be a little more into sports at the beginning of a relationship only to later (months or years down the road) yell at your boyfriend to turn the damn game off and pay attention to you? Meanwhile he’s sitting there perplexed because you used to love curling up on the coach to watch sports with him. What happened? You can’t blame a guy for being a little confused if you were all too eager to love sports in the beginning but now want him to turn it off and go shopping with you. There’s plenty of room for compromise in every relationship, on both sides; he shouldn’t be neglecting you all the time for the game and you shouldn’t be demanding his constant attention or prohibit him from doing things he loves. But just remember – if you were clear from the start you didn’t like sports and gave him the space to do the activities he loved on his own – you’d be setting up a much better routine for future reference!

Sometimes I think of dating like training a puppy. When I first got my lab puppy I was totally enamored of her. Okay it’s true love so I still am! But I knew from the start that the cute little habits she had as a five pound fluff ball were not going to be cute or fun when she was two years old and seventy pounds. So even though it was tough work, took nearly a year of consistent, patient reinforcing behavior correction – I worked kindly and persistently to train this adorable and slight unruly puppy. Until when she was a few years old and a fairly intimidating BIG dog, she was well behaved, well trained and a total love. When you start any relationship you should remember, the novelty will eventually wear off – so have fun, be kind, but think about the long term behavior you want in a relationship and make sure despite your adorable experience now – you are consistently getting and sharing the kind of long term behavior you want from your partner and yourself.

P.S. There’s a class for that! If you want to join one of my 3-Step System Workshops, be sure to CHECK OUT MY NEW Home Study Course – “Six Weeks to Dating Success.” It’s always highly effective and always a great journey to fast track your dating life! Join me!

P.S.S. Are you a visual learner? There’s also a short video with this same advice on my You Tube Channel – check out Tip 2 in my 5 step Video Series on how to Date like a Duchess.