Beauty in the Breakdown

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Bonjour!

There was a song that I really loved around the time I moved to Los Angeles that was by Frau Frau I believe and was called, “Let Go.” I used to listen to that song all the time to remind myself that sometimes we have to just let go of the past and move on with our lives.
Letting go has never been an easy feat for me.

I don’t know if it’s my Taurean nature or my obsessive need to be liked and adored, but I have a real challenge letting go. Especially when it’s not my idea.

I mean, you are talking to the person who until recently has saved damn near every plane ticket and train stub and museum flyer of every place I’d ever visited (trust me, I’ve travelled more than most and this was a veritable paper archive of shit I didn’t need!) and still sleeps with her baby blanket.

Yep.

Little known fact about the Duchess. She has her baby blanket still. Even lesser known fact, this baby blanket is not a pretty site. It’s a ratty gold colored seventies looking queen size mess with giant holes (from where my sister used to black mail me as a child and then cut holes in my blanket if I didn’t do her bidding) and the gold silk trim ripped off (by a grandmother who makes Snow White’s step mom look like Betty White).

Why do I still have it? I don’t know. I’m teased mercilessly by my family even now. They say when I get married (will I ever get married again?) I will wear it as a veil I’m so attached to the damn thing. It’s so unsightly my ex-husband refers to it as “gold blinkie” instead of “gold blanky” since it reminded him of the disfigured mutated nuclear waste fish “blinky” from the Simpsons. Maybe it’s because I still find it comforting and don’t see the harm in keeping it. Maybe it’s because it is the only thing I have which my dad gave me (before he decided he was done being a parent). Maybe it’s because I’m born under the grasping fist star of Taurus. Whatever the reason – it’s mine and blanky isn’t going anywhere.

But what about the times when it’s a man and not an inanimate object that needs to go? What about the particularly troubling times when it’s not our decision or idea, but theirs, to leave?

Like a bridge over troubled water, you should read these seven tips from Single Minded Women on letting go!

http://singlemindedwomen.com/women-relationships/letting-go-of-your-ex/